A.
Lies: Allegations of harassment
Coward completely mischaracterizes events in his 4th
paragraph:
In early 2001 I entered into a serious relationship with Hooker
Shoes ( the person who is now my wife ) and Writer of this blog started causing
trouble soon after. She harassed Hooker Shoes via Internet, phone calls and
even threatened to try and have my wife deported. ( My wife is Russian.) At
that time we filed a police report and I wrote Writer of this blog asking her
to leave us alone. Writer of this blog continued the harassment for a while, mostly
by contacting my sister and making slanderous remarks, regarding my wife. After some time though Writer of this blog
seemed to go away.
As I mentioned, I had been emailing with Coward, and he had
also given me the password for his email account. For some reason I don’t know,
Coward emailed me nude photographs of himself fully exposed. I asked him why he
did that, and he said, “just because.” I asked whether a woman had taken the
pictures, as I could see a bra on the dresser in the pictures, but he evaded
answering. I asked if she knew he had sent them, and he said she did not. I
suspected, but didn’t say aloud, that Hooker Shoes was that woman.
During one phone call, Coward admitted that Hooker Shoes was
upset that he was still talking to me, and since he planned to marry Hooker
Shoes, he wanted me to be friends with her. I reluctantly agreed to try, but
also told Coward that maybe he could just stop calling me. Instead, he put us
on the phone together, and we had a very awkward conversation. Pretty quickly,
she started talking without listening to me, then called me some bad names, so
I said something rude and hung up on her.
He called me back immediately, to tell me angrily that I was
in the wrong. I didn’t apologize; I didn’t want to be friends with Hooker Shoes.
I thought it was weird and inappropriate.
A couple of days later, he called me again when Hooker Shoes
wasn’t around, and apologized for Hooker Shoes’s behavior. For months later, he
would continue to call every few weeks. Gradually, we began using email rather
than phone calls.
The conversations began to include Hooker Shoes, and they quickly
devolved into petty bickering. I generally found her words incoherent and
irrational, often filled with anger and rudeness.
During
one of our phone calls, Hooker Shoes claimed she had known about the pictures
being sent to me, saying that she wanted me to be envious of what she had. I
think she was lying in order to save face, especially because I already knew
what Coward looked like without clothes and didn’t care.
By now, I was getting annoyed by Coward’s continued
insistence that I work out a relationship with Hooker Shoes. It was clear she
did not like me, and I did not like her. I thought I might still be friendly
with Coward, so, at his request, I continued email and phone conversations with
Coward behind her back.
Coward and Hooker Shoes got married. I sent a wedding gift;
it was returned. I called to ask if I had misaddressed it. He acted incredulous
that I had called, and began to get quite nasty with me. I suppose that he did
that for Hooker Shoes’s benefit because he had not been telling her that we
were talking.
I got angry with him. Calls went back and forth between the
three of us, and then emails, each getting uglier and uglier. I probably did
say in anger that Hooker Shoes should watch her steps because illegal actions
on her part would get her deported. I knew that she was sensitive to that topic
because of Coward’s prior revelations about her ex-husband; however, I had no
power to cause her to be deported, and I can’t imagine why she or Coward
thought that I actually might.
At one point Coward angrily asked me something like, “Didn’t
I teach you better?” about how I was talking to Hooker Shoes. This triggered
something from how he had treated me in the past, and I got quite angry. I
hadn’t asked for any of this to happen.
Having
been provoked by Coward’s words, I lost my cool, and overreacted. I logged into
Coward’s email account by using the password he gave me, and sent the nude
photographs he had sent me on to only the adult members of his family, writing something
insensitive in the message. Coward’s sister responded negatively to the email,
and we went back and forth in email a few times. Nothing came of it.
If Coward did file a police report, this affidavit is the
first I’ve ever heard of it. No officials ever contacted me about it.
I do not recall ever receiving a letter from Coward asking
me to stop, unless it was part of a hate-filled spewing of insults from Hooker
Shoes, written in provocative and incendiary language, which, I confess, I
probably didn’t take very seriously as a request to stop, nor do I think a
reasonable person would see it that way. It was just a series of back-and-forth
of angry name-calling and unreasonable demands.
These events took only a few weeks in late 2001. After it
ended, it died completely. I dropped all contact with Coward, his family, or
his friends, since that time.
This was nothing more than an electronic altercation between
us. It was not harassment at all. I did begin to confront Coward with the
violence and abuse; I’m sure neither he nor Hooker Shoes were happy with me for
that, but it was just the truth that I withheld for too long.
Corroboration
My husband has some of the emails from the
conversations described here (he archives just about everything in email since
the 90’s). A lot of anger shows, but the claims I make here are consistent with
them.
Hooker Shoes and Coward brought some printed emails with
them to court on May 14. The judge expressed no interest in reading them.
