Filing a report against your abuser

It was suggested to me that while the statue of limitations was passed on making a report of domestic violence, I do so anyhow. It would not be the same as making a report where they could arrest him, but it would go in a file and if anyone comes forward with new charges, it will trigger a red flag.  After I told stories of the physical and mental abuse, the officer taking my report told me with not only his words but with his face that he was deeply sorry for what I went through. I think it’s just one of the steps, I need to take in order to move forward. I know that for myself I am seeking contrition from Coward, for the acts of violence against me and the other’s. I said so too;I’m seeking contrition for us all. This isn’t just about me and how it's affected me, because I know that domestic violence is far reaching. I would suggest you speak to your mental health provider before attempting this, but I know that for myself it was cathartic.

 If I would have reported him for having sex with me when I was 17 and he was 21 he would have served time for a felony. The penalty increases if the perpetrator is more than three years older than the victim, and I was.  Not including that if the other’s girls would have reported him, he would have been in there for a very long time for sex with them when they were minors as well. I knew at least one of the girls before me was even younger than me, she was 16. This is just for the statuary rape; this isn’t even about the domestic violence he committed against us, three major players in his game of Coward, bully- of women.

Our voices could have made him serve time, and kept him off the market to do this to another woman. I can woulda, coulda, shoulda, myself to death, and beat myself up for not reporting him, and for me protecting him and what lied beneath his bible totting ways. For now, I am just grateful that I am a victor, no longer his victim.